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One Month Without Social Networking!

So today marks the last day of my self imposed no Facebook and no Twitter month. I did for several reasons, firstly to raise money for charity (Southend Cats protection- I’m still hoping to raise more please consider donating at https://www.justgiving.com/nosocialnetworkmarch/) and to remind myself what life was once like without social networking. The month has been something of a revelation. I thought I wasn’t too bad about going on social networks, after all I went them for about three months once before. However when I came away from it, I realised how much time it was actually taking up. Suddenly I had time spare! and now I had to face the projects I’d been avoiding.

Because of the spare time I gained, I managed to do a full edit of my non fiction spiritual book I’ve been working on for the past two years, so it’s now ready for a second read by a proof reader. I did the edit of the feminism chapter I’m contributing to a book. I even put together my spiritually minded poetry together for a collection I am hoping to publish.

I always read, but because I wasn’t ‘reading’ Facebook or Twitter instead, I actually read about ten times as much! I got through books quicker than I have for a long time!

I also learnt that after the initial few days of breaking the habit, I didn’t actually miss it! I wasn’t worrying about what was going on in anyone’s lives or wondering what pictures had been shared. All I missed really was the convenience of being able to contact almost all my friends in one place, rather than having to text or call people separately. I also wanted to know about the goddess retreat I am going to in May, if any news about it has come out, as that’s where all the posts are regarding it. But asides from that, I feel fine about it!

So tomorrow I will be back “on” social media but I have decided from now on to do my best to take a different approach to it. Firstly I have decided not to put any of it back on my phone. I don’t really need to have it at my beck and call. I can look at it at home on the computer. I will make sure I put any projects I am working on etc first on my priority list, rather than avoiding them by procrastinating especially on Facebook. I think there may be other things that come up too, but for now, this would be a large change for me.

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Happy Birthday to Moonlight Phoenix Has Risen!

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Today it’s been two years since I first started this blog, so it also marks two years since I made some big changes and started the pathway to where I am now.

Two years ago, I decided to give up radio and concentrate on writing and also my spiritual life which was coming more into focus at the time as I was attending a weekly spiritual group, which I would say changed my life.

In that two years I have done things I never thought I would do. I did a fire walk and even a glass walk! I took part in two sweat lodges. I’ve read poetry in front of an audience four times now. I finally left my job that I was so unhappy in, I now have a job I really like and I’m already training to get to a higher level. I have almost finished writing a book, as well as putting a collection of poetry together and contributing a chapter to someone else’s book.

yay!

Here are my top ten popular blog posts:

Sue Denim Interview

Proposed Lap Dancing Club in Southend

Feminism in London 2013

The Singer of Courage

Good Things: Netherlands Special

The End of Pigtails and Army Boots

Manifestation- the white despacho ceremony

What I Have to Offer

2015 Goals and Resolutions

Eden 2015: Transformation

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Week Three of No Social Networking March

I have now been going without Facebook and twitter for 23 days.

To be honest there is not much change since the last time I updated you, I’m not really missing it, and I have been productive! I’m getting lots of things done and reading lots!

I’m doing this to raise money for Southend Cats Protection- please sponsor me! http://www.justgiving.com/nosocialnetworkmarch

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Spring Equinox Freshness

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a photo I took today the day of the Spring Equinox and also an entry for the ‘Fresh’ photo challenge as posted by The Daily Post

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Week Two of No Social Networking March

Today is my 14th day with no Facebook or Twitter!

I’ve still been getting emails from Facebook telling me I have notifications waiting…but I haven’t gone on there. I’ll have to check my notification settings when I go back on April and see if there is a way to switch this email off as I hardly get any other Facebook notifications in my email, so I’m not sure if this is one I’m subscribed to in some way or just Facebook trying to lure me back in!

I haven’t missed it at all, apart from not knowing what’s going on with things I’m going to etc like the Goddess Weekend I’m going to in May as I’m getting messages about it there and not anywhere else! It was also a bit annoying today as I had to change plans slightly and one of the people I needed to tell I didn’t have her number although she had mine. Luckily found a way round it in the end without logging onto my Facebook!

On the plus side, I still have been super productive. I got the first edit back of the feminist chapter I was working on in January, so I’ve started working on that, and I’ve actually done one round of editing on my spiritual book I’m writing! I’ve gone through it all now, so now it’s just a case of adding bits in and getting it in a hopefully publishable state. It’s only about 30 pages at the moment but we’ll see how it goes. I’m hoping to go down the self publishing route to begin with.

I’ve also been reading A LOT. With all the time I’ve got free I’ve had some time where I’ve had nothing to do! (which makes a change)! So whenever I have a moment like that, where I would usually look on social networking, I’ve picked up a book instead. Luckily the last two books I’ve read have been really good! (MockingJay- the last in the hunger games series and Charlotte Street by Danny Wallace)

So things going well with it 🙂 I’m also fundraising and not able to share my link in the usual places so please donate if you can or at least share my link, to help the homeless cats at Southend Cats Protection. https://www.justgiving.com/nosocialnetworkmarch/

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Week One of No Social Networking March

Some of you may know that I decided that during March I would be taking a break from social networking, namely for me, Facebook and Twitter, as they’re my two vices when it comes to social networking. It was for a lot of reasons, firstly a different way to challenge myself and raise money for a worthwhile charity. I’m doing it for my local Cats protection group and you can sponsor me by going to http://www.justgiving.com/nosocialnetworkmarch- all donations are gratefully accepted even if it’s only £1! Thank you very much if you one of the people that has already or has shared, as obviously I haven’t been able to share the link apart from on the week leading up to it! So please if nothing else, please share my link and help me raise money for the kitties!!

Anyway it was for other reasons too, mostly procrastination. I spent an awful lot of time just mindlessly looking when I had a lot of other projects I could be working on. It was a way of keeping up with what friends and family were up to, which is fine, but when it starts reducing personal contact, you have to wonder how healthy that is. There’s some people I haven’t actually seen or spoke to in a long time.

So basically before I went to bed on the 28th Feb I took off my Facebook, Facebook messaging and Twitter apps off my phone so I wouldn’t be tempted and made sure in the week leading up to it that I got phone numbers from anyone I thought I would want to contact and warned I would be ‘away’ and made notes of any upcoming events etc.

Now I have reached Day 9 and this is my first blog update about it. The first day was the hardest, I would keep going to look at my phone to see if there was any notifications and then realise I couldn’t! And even though I don’t really post that many status updates or tweets, my head felt like it was full of them!

After a few days I started to stop checking my phone and my head stopped making updates. I did get frustrated a few times though that I would want to ask all of my friends something and I couldn’t just ask it on Facebook! So I’m sorry if you’re one of the people that has had to put up with lots of group texts! I also came across a birthday in my diary and then I realised I didn’t have the person’s number to send a birthday wish, so despite my best intentions I still didn’t get everything I needed- it shows how much we rely on FB for contact these days!

I’ve also found I’ve got a lot of other sites linked to my Facebook, which I still have been using, but unfortunately I did sign a petition on a site that was linked, and then it said ‘posted to timeline’ when I hadn’t even clicked on anything! Also in the last 9 days I have had not one, not two, not even three but FOUR emails from Facebook saying ‘you have notifications waiting…” like saying where are you, why aren’t you looking at your notifications!!! It’s saying something when a website emails you that many times in a week just because you aren’t there. I haven’t had any emails from Twitter.

Overall though I must admit that I am not missing it all now. To begin with it was more like I had something missing, but I’ve got used to it now. I didn’t think I spent so much time on it but now I’m away from it I’ve realised that I was spending more time that I thought I was. It’s turned out to be very good for me, as because of the time I’ve gained I’ve actually been working on those projects I’ve been neglecting like my book! I’ve also been reading a lot more and really enjoying it!

I’m sure I will go back to it when the month ends but hopefully using it in a less time consuming way! As I do think there are some plus sides to using it as well. I look forward to seeing how the rest of this month pans out 🙂

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Smashed

A tattered pink boa and a half empty bottle of water

the remains of a Saturday night

lost in a fog of drunken haze

dancing until your shoes fell off

drinking against the clock

head feels like a hammer

you’re regretting that last tequila slammer

who’s number have you got written on your wrist?

Another night lost to add to the list

at the weekend you don’t even know who you are

as you visit yet another bar

Sunday mornings, you just can’t predict where you’ll be

you’re not even sure where you put your house key

another weekend casuality

Monday, back to reality

until the weekend rolls around again

and the cycle begins again

trying to numb what you’re become

instead of feeling.

it’s time to start healing

things can change

time to start a new dance…

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Feburary 2015- Give Me One Good Reason Why I Can’t Make A Change…

Blimey, how did it get to be March already? February went past in even more of a blur than January, I guess those few days we normally have at the end of the month make all the difference! I don’t think I have been as busy socially but I have been working really hard. here’s the usual rundown of how it went.

My Key Focuses for 2015

FRIENDSHIP- still feeling good about this, don’t think have been quite as active this month but there has still been things going on in this area.

FUN- didn’t really have enough of this I don’t think, mainly because I’ve been focusing on doing overtime and getting to understand my supervisor training. My mood has been a bit funny at times too, it’s better now but for a few weeks I was feeling quite low, possibly because we were in a mercury retrograde. A lot of people seemed to be going through strong emotions at this time, I’m glad it seems to have averted now! (edit: we did go to see Simon Amstell though which was fun)!

CREATIVITY AND INSPIRATION- I signed up to some of poetry blog challenge, where you got sent emails sent daily through Feb with a word, and a form of poetry that you could try if you wanted, there was no obligation and you didn’t have to use all the suggested prompts. I did write three poems, so I’m quite pleased with that, even if they were in a similar vein. I didn’t feel very inspired otherwise though.

Goals/Aims

Regular Paying Clients for my Healing- didn’t quite put as much focus on this as I had intended but I did have one client in Feb, so that’s one more than last month- hooray!

To be a Supervisor- the training has been carrying on and I think my confidence is slowly coming, I even did the banking in another branch!

To Finish my book- didn’t do this at all. Oops!

To Visit Glastonbury, Three Wishes and Gaunts House- nothing towards these yet

To be better at birthdays- was a bit rubbish this month. Was good with Valentines though- I adopted a bear for Miguel!

go along to Street Spirit- still been unable to do this, although did send some money when they did a sponsored event.

spend less time on Facebook- have been continuing cutting down looking at the feed by 5 minutes a day so now up to 4 hours and 40 minutes between looking, I’ve mostly stuck to this apart from the last few days because I’m going a step further and coming off both Facebook and Twitter for a month! I’m doing it for charity- https://www.justgiving.com/nosocialnetworkmarch and I will be posting updates on here on how it’s going. Only been a day so far, and it’s pretty weird as I keep going to look at my phone and it’s not there, and it’s like my head is suddenly full of status updates and tweets! I also couldn’t tweet a request into a radio show earlier! (they only said by twitter or facebook not email)!

reconnect with my pagan/witchy side- nothing towards this yet

go into nature more- I had one walk to Priory park. The cold has been putting me off, but hopefully it will warm up soon!

watch less T.V- think I have been watching less generally

get into music again- went to a local gig the other day to see Mo Fingers, an instrumental band who’s music is hard to categorise, it’s funky, psychedelic and rocky all rolled into one and very danceable! I’ve also been listening to the playlists on BBC 6 Music a few times- I really enjoyed the riot grrrl one. I’ve also just realised I like George Ezra too! (having a radio on at work does make you start liking certain tunes and I only discovered one of them was ‘Budapest’ when I watched The Brit Awards)!

Finally, the things I actually did:

Our friend mark visited (he now lives in Hastings) which was really nice, and he told us all about how different it is there compared to Southend, it sounds amazing, and I can’t wait to visit!

We went to the local theatre to see Simon Amstell, as I had bought tickets for Miguel’s birthday. I had never been to see a comedian before so it was a new experience. It was a shame our seats were really pants, but he was really funny and insightful as well!

I went for a lunch at The Railway with a small group of friends and we had a lot of laughs!

I had a Sacred Money Archetype consultation which was very interesting, you basically answer a lot of questions and then it reveals what your money habits are like. My one is an accumulator, which is someone who is very good at saving but hates spending money, and it was accurate, it was funny!

I had my women’s circle as always even though we had to change the date as people couldn’t make it on the original planned date in the end. We did about Shamanism and it included finding power animals for each other, I think it went very well.

Went to a debrief about the EDEN conference where we just discussed how the event went, and what things were good, what we could do better etc.

I went to a fundraising quiz night my friend Sherry organised, and I as I thought, I am rubbish at quizzes, but as it turns out, so is my friend Sara, so we spent most of the evening making beautiful pieces of art with raffle tickets!  You can help my friend out by sponsoring her here https://www.justgiving.com/dustyrunsbrighton/

as previously mentioned we saw Mo Fingers.

Sadly, I had to attend a funeral of an old friend called Stanley who was a long time member of Southend Animal Aid. He was very active to a very late age (he was 94 when he passed). I was very glad to be able to go and pay my last respects to an admirable man.

it ended on a happier note, as I went out last night with my old pharmacy colleagues. We went for a meal at Bobby Jo’s on the seafront and had a bit of a catch up.

Now it will be interesting to see how productive March will be without the distraction of social media..

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